Hi! I’m Nessa!
Let’s be honest. We live in a world where it’s a scary time to be a woman. Connecting with our bodies and making our OWN choices is a big deal. So it’s my mission to provide you with the tools and education so you don’t go into this alone! I want to help you break down any barriers in your way of achieving a healthy and empowering birth experience.
Some background and context.
I’m a sharer. It’s a long one but it’s all relevant! You ready?
I don’t think I have a story of origin. I mean, I feel like, as a person who’s identified as a woman her whole life, I’ve always been fighting the good fight and railing against the machine. But, as with most people, becoming a mother really propelled me forward to owning this as my life’s work.
I have two children of my own, Rowan and Elsa. I’ve lived on both coasts of Canada, (Rowan was born in Halifax) but have lived most of my life in Southern Ontario. I also lived in Bath, UK for a year after graduating from Trent University with my Sociology degree. I know from experience that birthing alone is hard work. And… birthing alone without any knowledge of birth or my own body, even harder. Let’s just say, my first birth was traumatic and did not involve consent!
I had my second kiddo at home in Peterborough, ON with midwives and what a difference! It was a very empowering experience, unmedicated, with so much control, patience, and information. A few years after her birth, I trained with Bebo Mia to become a Maternal Support Practitioner (also known as Doula), slowed down my photography business and started this business, Hello, Baby! by the fall of 2016. In 2017 In my effort to experience pregnancy and birth again, I became a surrogate for a beautiful couple from NYC. I had my longest labour yet, (46 hours, medicated, vaginal) but this time I had a doula! Even though I had all the knowledge in the world about bodies and birth, I couldn’t connect to my body. The emotional pressures I was placing on myself to have the perfect birth for this family held me back and I ended up disassociating on and off from this birth.
As cheesy as it sounds, there was a moment in this labour where I called in the power of all the birthing women in the world to support me. I didn’t know what else to do and that just seemed like the only option left. As I did so, I started to lean in to the contractions, working with them instead of against them and voila, it was go time. I was in a clear pattern of active labour and there was no going back! It was this experience, birthing my surro babe, that really showed me how much the mind and body are connected. By the way…. I consider Sebi and his dads a part of my family and I am so excited to be their doula for their second child.
It wasn’t until 2018 when I fully started to connect to my intuition with a daily practice of tarot, meditation, and with listening and looking for signs of guidance from guides.
Why the change? Where did this come from? Well… The ending of my marriage really launched me into a spiritual journey that stared to connecting so many dots and experiences I had been having with my intuition my entire life.
Separating from my partner of 10+ years was one of the hardest things I’ve ever been through. I was in a spiral of depression and intrusive thoughts. Not only was I a single mom, but my business was failing. In my depression spiral, I was dissociating from my body. Emotionally eating. Having panic attacks. Dishes were piling up everywhere. I couldn’t get dinner on the table. It was horrible. I knew something had to change which meant breaking up with the shop I owned with my then business partner. I had to provide for my kids, run a household, care for my animals, and just get my shit together. I’d be through “get your shit together” moments in the past, but nothing like the huge responsibility of having children in the mix. During this time my son was diagnosed with Generalized Anxiety Disorder and I am in the process of seeking an assessment for Autism Spectrum Disorder. It’s been a wild ride.
I’m HERE! I created Empowered Birth and am launching this business forward in to such an exciting place. I’m determined to SURVIVE (and there’s so much more to that story) and, now you know a little bit about how I can teach you a thing or two about how to get through some of the most identity forming, vulnerable times in your life.
There’s so much more to my story but I thought those are some of the things that have really brought me to this place to be with you. Thank you for being here with me!