Posts tagged birth doula
Put a doula on your baby shower wish list!

Get them to think “out of the box”

We know that hiring a doula is an investment (and a darn good one!) and if you have decided that having a doula is the right choice for your birth, recovery, and transition into parenthood then you CAN make it work. Most doulas (including Hello, Baby!) offer payment plans to help you break out the expense over several months which is a great option to explore. If you still feel like hiring a doula is not something you are able to afford, then why not add it to your wish list for a baby shower?

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Let your friends and family help you out.

It is normal for friends and family to pitch in together to buy you a “big ticket” item like a stroller system, crib set, or car seat so asking them to work together to buy you the gift of birth or postpartum support just makes sense! In fact, it is an amazing way for friends or family who live at a distance to feel connected and included in your experience. It gives them a chance to help you even when they can’t be there in person.

Feel awkward asking for money towards doula support?

Asking for cash makes the best of us feel awkward so… don’t! Ask your doula if they offer gift certificates that can be used towards birth or postpartum support. This way your friends and family know what they are contributing to and have something tangible to give you at your shower!

When is the best time to hire my birth doula?

The earlier the better!

If you are thinking of adding a doula to your birth team, you may want to consider starting your search sooner rather than later. Although there is no “too late” when it comes to hiring your doula, you definitely get a fuller experience when you connect in the first half of your pregnancy! The earlier in your pregnancy you hire your doula, the more time you have to:

  • access their resources and expertise

  • find out about one another and how you will click on the birthday

  • practice hands-on comfort measures

  • get connected to professionals, groups, and resources in your community

  • ask your doula questions as they come up along the way

  • have your birth partner connect with your doula and figure out how they are going to work together to support you and each other

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Want to connect with a Hello, Baby! doula?

We offer a free consultation to anyone who would like to come and meet us. Finding a doula that you connect with is important so we like to make some time for you to ask questions and make sure that what we offer is going to be what you need! Don’t be shy - we are always happy to chat. E-mail info@hellobabyptbo.com to set up a consultation and chat with a Hello, Baby! doula.

What does a doula bring to your birth?

As doulas, what we bring to our client's births changes constantly. 

Every doula has their own little (or not so little) bag of supplies they bring with them.  We often refer to them as our "birth bags" and they may have any number of things in them, like: 

  • the birthing person's information and birth plan
  • oils for massage or aromatherapy
  • cloth for wrapping bellies or hips
  • tools for massage and counter pressure
  • a book or two with additional information about birth and comfort measures
  • a change of clothes
  • snacks and water
  • lip balm
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Every doula has their own favourite tools and techniques and, as you can see from the list, there is as much in our bag for you and there is for us because supporting someone through labour and birth is physically and emotionally tiring work. 

Doulas bring so much more.

Much more important than the tools and supplies you will find in our birth bags is what a doula REALLY brings to your birth.  Experience, an evolving understanding of bodies in labour, a belief in your ability to bring a baby into the world, and a familiarity with the different choices and options you may come to along the way are individual to each doula.  We learn from every experience, book, training, and challenge. 

Your doula can be an interpreter. 

As doulas, we work alongside midwives, nurses, and OBGYNs all the time. We come to know them and the language they use. Ideally, we have a relationship with them that allows us to ask questions and learn from their perspective. A doula cannot speak for you, but we can help prompt you in asking questions that will further the conversation between you and your care provider. 

Your doula can be your rock. 

Giving birth is without question an intense experience - physically and emotionally. This is true not just for the person giving birth but for their partner and family, too. Perhaps the biggest obstacle during labour is fear and doubt. They creep in because whether this birth is your first or your third, the way it unfolds in unknown.  As a doula, we can ground you. When you are working hard, swaying, moaning, and turning inward it is not at all uncommon for your partner or family to look to us, your doula, for a sign that this is "normal" and that all is well. It is our job to be steady and confident and because we have seen birth many times, we are. 

A photo of Hello, Baby!'s Steph Hayes supporting a client during a home birth.

A photo of Hello, Baby!'s Steph Hayes supporting a client during a home birth.

Your doula can be your wind. 

Sometimes, as a doula it is our job to push you towards your goals. When you are tired or doubting yourself, we are there to remind you of your hopes for birth and how you planned to make it happen. We will keep you moving, suggesting position changes, offering comfort and pain relief with our hands and words. We work with your partner and together, we do our best to fill you back up so that you can regain your rhythm and have the birth you hoped for. Sometimes, a doula's job is to shake things up a little!

Your doula can help you have a positive and empowered birth.

Whether your birth unfolds as planned or circumstances lead you to make different choices, your doula is there with you. There is no expectation about birth coming from us - what is most important to us is that when your baby is born and you reflect back on your birth you feel that it was YOUR birth. For a doula, that is a sure sign that we were a valuable member of your team.

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Happy World Doula Week 2017!  

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If you follow Hello, Baby! on Facebook or Instagram you have probably been seeing a whole love of doula love being shared this week and for good reason.  We love our work and it gets us super excited to have the chance to let everyone know more about who we are and what doulas  do!  Even better is the chance to tell you a little bit more about us as people and doulas and what we have learned about birthwork so far.  Ready?  Let’s do it!

Doula Selfie!

Hello, Baby! co-owner and doula, Jenn Avis.

Hello, Baby! co-owner and doula, Jenn Avis.

This is me, Jenn, on my way out to a birth!  One of the exciting things about being a birth doula is the "surprise" factor - babies come on their own schedule, that much is for sure.  The name of the game when it comes to dressing for birth is comfort and layers.  I have supported births as short as 5 hours and as long as 46 hours!  

Favourite Quote.

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I remember seeing this quote a couple of years ago and it really stuck with me.  The process of becoming a parent - whether that happens by birthing a child, surrogacy, or adoption - changes you in ways you couldn't have anticipated.  Physically, emotionally, and spiritually you grow.  It is an amazing process to be a part of and it deserves celebration!

 

Tool(s) I use most

Peterborough doula Hello Baby Jenn

There are so many wonderful resources and tools that can be used to support a person as they labour or after baby is born but in the end I tend to rely on the basics: my head and my hands.  I love when birth balls, wraps, and cool cloths get pulled into the mix, but I am a firm believer in the power of touch and the comfort and strength it can help someone achieve during birth!

Some kind words from past clients.

Definitely recommend having a doula! You made my experience a more calm one. Knowing someone was there focusing just on me helped me to relax. Doulas rock!
— Crystal K. 2016
For me, pregnancy after loss has brought with it a whole mixed bag of emotions: joy mixed with fear and mainly a huge helping of anxiety. Along with excellent care providers and a wonderful therapist, hiring a doula as part of my care team is the best choice I could have made for myself. For me, having a doula with me on this journey is like having a friend I can contact day or night when I’m feeling like I’m about to fall to pieces. She is always there to help me put myself back together with gentle encouragement and is never judgmental. Pregnancy after loss has been a very difficult journey for me, but having a doula on my side has helped make it bearable.
— Sarah M 2016

A doula is there for YOU and the difference that kind of unconditional support can have on a person's experience with pregnancy, birth, loss, or the transition into parenting is real and important.  Kind words like these are what makes the work we do so meaningful.

My doula bag

Peterborough doula Hello Baby Jenn

For the most part this is it!  I do often have some essential oils for diffusing if that is something a client is interested in & one thing that is definitely missing is my phone charger!  Other than that, there isn't much I need that we can't find in a home or hospital setting.

A Mentor/ Source of Inspiration

There are so many people who inspire me an my work as a doula.  There are authors and researchers and other doulas who are very much part of why and how I got started on this path.  I think, however, that one of my most constant sources of inspiration is a friend and family member - my sister-in-love, Sarah.  

Sarah & Jenn at a family wedding 2016

Sarah & Jenn at a family wedding 2016

Warm. Intelligent. Determined.  Strong.  Wise. Willing to learn.  Striving to heal.  Sarah has been my companion and friend through the wild ride of pregnancy, birth, and life with a baby and now toddler.  She has taught me so much about compassion and self-love.  She is an unwavering friend and one of my biggest cheerleaders.  Love you , Sarah!

What is my favourite part about being a doula?

As long as I can remember I have been looking for work that allowed me to help people in a meaningful way.  It took me a long time to find the right path but after having my own experience with with pregnancy, birth, and the bumpy postpartum road and seeing first hand the deep impact that unbiased and unconditional support can have for a person going through this life and self changing process, I knew that becoming a doula was the first step to finding my "thing".  

Are you thinking about hiring a doula?

If you think you would like to have a Hello, Baby! doula on your birth team click HERE to contact us and get the ball rolling.  We would love to work with you and help you have a positive and empowered birth.