Doulas support the whole team
When we talk about doulas and dads we, of course, mean doulas and any/every birth partner on the team! Doulas & Dads just sounds catchy but this discussion applies to every possible birthing couple out there. Doulas are there to support the person giving birth but a big part of that role includes supporting the birth team as a unit! Chances are birth partners, family members, and friends invited to attend the birth will all need some TLC along the way and that can be anything from an encouraging look to a full-out hands-on demonstration on how to help the person in labour. Making sure everyone is cool, calm, and confident is just one way a doula keeps the room a positive and supportive birth space.
Doulas do NOT replace dads.
We will go on record and say that even if we wanted to, we could never replace you as the birth partner and the unique role you have to play during labour and birth. Doulas don't replace dads, we are there to back you up! We are both there in the birth room with the same goal - to support the person giving birth in whatever way we can, as well as we can, for as long as we can. We come to birth with different skills and can make an amazing team.
We know birth. You know the person giving birth.
A doula's job is to know A LOT about birth. We have studied and trained to make sure that we know as much as we can about the different scenarios, choices, options, and "what ifs" as possible so that you can be present knowing you have someone to help you make informed decisions if/when you need to. We have attended many births whereas, chances are, you may be attending your first! We are able to draw from that experience and help you support your partner in ways you may not think of. Your doula will be there to guide and prompt you through your partner's labour so that you feel confident in your role and ability to help her while she gives birth.
You, on the other hand, may not know as much about birth but you are the expert when it comes to your partner. You know what they like, what they hate, their fears, hopes, and birth goals. You have been with them through pregnancy and you will be there with them when baby is born and every day after! You can help communicate for your partner in the thick of contractions. You can offer your partner a level of emotional support that no one else can.
Tag! You're it.
Giving birth is hard work. Your partner is going to need physical and emotional support from the first contraction to the last push and that can be very demanding on you as the birth partner. Having a doula with you during birth means that we can flow back and forth with different types of support. At times, your partner may need to hear your voice and see your face to push through a difficult series of contractions. While you are busy providing that reassurance and love, your doula can be providing massage, counter pressure, or applying hot or cool cloths. At other times, your partner may need to switch it up. You can take over the physical comfort measures while your doula talks you both through breathing or position changes.
Eventually, you are going to need to rest, eat, or go to the washroom! Having a doula around is perfect for these times, too. You can refresh and tend to your own needs knowing that your partner is never left alone to cope.
Options, suggestions, questions.
Often, birth partners can feel left out because there is a lot going on and no one is communicating to them. A doula can fill that gap. We have worked with your health care providers before and are familiar with different policies, terms, and timelines. We can interpret and make sure that you feel able to ask questions and voice opinions as needed. Your doula can help you work through decisions and ease communication between you and your doctors or midwives if you need some help.
The "Dream Team"
Having a doula on your team doesn't make your role less important; your doula allows you to focus on your partner and the birth of your child by holding space and offering support to you both. When you and your doula work together, your partner is getting the best of both worlds and you can head into birth knowing that you are not alone.
If you want to know more about how a Hello, Baby! doula can help you and your partner during pregnancy, birth, and once baby is born CONTACT US! We would love to work with you.