Posts tagged postpartum doula
Should I hire a postpartum doula now... or after baby is born?
 

Hiring your postpartum doula NOW is a good choice.

If you are hiring a postpartum doula it is because you know that once baby is born and home, you are going to need some support. The fact that you have taken the time to think about taking care of yourself and your baby after they are born it amazing - seriously, we are SUPER proud of you! So take that one extra step and hire your postpartum doula NOW.

You will be happy you planned ahead.

Taking the time to meet with and hire a postpartum doula now, before baby is born, is definitely a good idea for a couple of reasons.

First of all, you are going to need to tap into that support shortly after your baby is born and you are settling in at home. If you wait until you are in the thick of those hazy newborn days you are in survival mode and it may fall off of your list. Booking your doula now is setting yourself up for a less stressful and more supported transition into parenthood, not to mention recovery from birth.

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Secondly, hiring a postpartum doula is usually something you want to take a little time with! You will be sharing time and space with your doula and it is important that you feel comfortable with them and confident in their skills and experience. Your partner may also want to meet them ahead of time! Trying to make this kind of personal / professional connection with someone when you are already in the middle of transition can be tough! Now, while you are pregnant, you will have more time to explore your options and make the right choice for you.

Connect with a Hello, Baby! doula.

Day or night, Hello, Baby!’s doulas can work with you and your family to get through those first days, weeks, and even months with your baby. You don’t have to just survive your postpartum period - you can walk through it at your own pace with an experienced professional to guide you and help you learn new skills. E-mail info@hellobabyptbo.com to connect with a Hello, Baby! doula and find out more about what we offer to support your postpartum experience.

 
Put a doula on your baby shower wish list!
 

Get them to think “out of the box”

We know that hiring a doula is an investment (and a darn good one!) and if you have decided that having a doula is the right choice for your birth, recovery, and transition into parenthood then you CAN make it work. Most doulas (including Hello, Baby!) offer payment plans to help you break out the expense over several months which is a great option to explore. If you still feel like hiring a doula is not something you are able to afford, then why not add it to your wish list for a baby shower?

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Let your friends and family help you out.

It is normal for friends and family to pitch in together to buy you a “big ticket” item like a stroller system, crib set, or car seat so asking them to work together to buy you the gift of birth or postpartum support just makes sense! In fact, it is an amazing way for friends or family who live at a distance to feel connected and included in your experience. It gives them a chance to help you even when they can’t be there in person.

Feel awkward asking for money towards doula support?

Asking for cash makes the best of us feel awkward so… don’t! Ask your doula if they offer gift certificates that can be used towards birth or postpartum support. This way your friends and family know what they are contributing to and have something tangible to give you at your shower!

 
World Doula Week - Jenn

Happy World Doula Week 2017!  

Peterborough doula Hello Baby

If you follow Hello, Baby! on Facebook or Instagram you have probably been seeing a whole love of doula love being shared this week and for good reason.  We love our work and it gets us super excited to have the chance to let everyone know more about who we are and what doulas  do!  Even better is the chance to tell you a little bit more about us as people and doulas and what we have learned about birthwork so far.  Ready?  Let’s do it!

Doula Selfie!

Hello, Baby! co-owner and doula, Jenn Avis.

Hello, Baby! co-owner and doula, Jenn Avis.

This is me, Jenn, on my way out to a birth!  One of the exciting things about being a birth doula is the "surprise" factor - babies come on their own schedule, that much is for sure.  The name of the game when it comes to dressing for birth is comfort and layers.  I have supported births as short as 5 hours and as long as 46 hours!  

Favourite Quote.

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I remember seeing this quote a couple of years ago and it really stuck with me.  The process of becoming a parent - whether that happens by birthing a child, surrogacy, or adoption - changes you in ways you couldn't have anticipated.  Physically, emotionally, and spiritually you grow.  It is an amazing process to be a part of and it deserves celebration!

 

Tool(s) I use most

Peterborough doula Hello Baby Jenn

There are so many wonderful resources and tools that can be used to support a person as they labour or after baby is born but in the end I tend to rely on the basics: my head and my hands.  I love when birth balls, wraps, and cool cloths get pulled into the mix, but I am a firm believer in the power of touch and the comfort and strength it can help someone achieve during birth!

Some kind words from past clients.

Definitely recommend having a doula! You made my experience a more calm one. Knowing someone was there focusing just on me helped me to relax. Doulas rock!
— Crystal K. 2016
For me, pregnancy after loss has brought with it a whole mixed bag of emotions: joy mixed with fear and mainly a huge helping of anxiety. Along with excellent care providers and a wonderful therapist, hiring a doula as part of my care team is the best choice I could have made for myself. For me, having a doula with me on this journey is like having a friend I can contact day or night when I’m feeling like I’m about to fall to pieces. She is always there to help me put myself back together with gentle encouragement and is never judgmental. Pregnancy after loss has been a very difficult journey for me, but having a doula on my side has helped make it bearable.
— Sarah M 2016

A doula is there for YOU and the difference that kind of unconditional support can have on a person's experience with pregnancy, birth, loss, or the transition into parenting is real and important.  Kind words like these are what makes the work we do so meaningful.

My doula bag

Peterborough doula Hello Baby Jenn

For the most part this is it!  I do often have some essential oils for diffusing if that is something a client is interested in & one thing that is definitely missing is my phone charger!  Other than that, there isn't much I need that we can't find in a home or hospital setting.

A Mentor/ Source of Inspiration

There are so many people who inspire me an my work as a doula.  There are authors and researchers and other doulas who are very much part of why and how I got started on this path.  I think, however, that one of my most constant sources of inspiration is a friend and family member - my sister-in-love, Sarah.  

Sarah & Jenn at a family wedding 2016

Sarah & Jenn at a family wedding 2016

Warm. Intelligent. Determined.  Strong.  Wise. Willing to learn.  Striving to heal.  Sarah has been my companion and friend through the wild ride of pregnancy, birth, and life with a baby and now toddler.  She has taught me so much about compassion and self-love.  She is an unwavering friend and one of my biggest cheerleaders.  Love you , Sarah!

What is my favourite part about being a doula?

As long as I can remember I have been looking for work that allowed me to help people in a meaningful way.  It took me a long time to find the right path but after having my own experience with with pregnancy, birth, and the bumpy postpartum road and seeing first hand the deep impact that unbiased and unconditional support can have for a person going through this life and self changing process, I knew that becoming a doula was the first step to finding my "thing".  

Are you thinking about hiring a doula?

If you think you would like to have a Hello, Baby! doula on your birth team click HERE to contact us and get the ball rolling.  We would love to work with you and help you have a positive and empowered birth.

World Doula Week - Steph Hayes

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Doula selfie!

 
Hello Baby Peterborough Doula Steph Hayes
 

Taking care of families is hard work! Whether it’s getting up on the bed to be right beside her head to reassure her she’s doing an amazing job and coach her through her breathing, or snuggling up with a newborn in a woven wrap, I need to be able to move around, quickly, and comfortably. So I usually wear layers which are always helpful, especially at births when the temperature can fluctuate from night into day.

Favourite quote

I don’t really do quotes as life mantras! Haha! But I do think they can give you some great pause, or a that kick-in-the-ass you need to make your dreams happen! I like this one because it reflects my optimism. Buffy St. Marie recently mentioned in an CBC interview that she would rather feel good than bad. At the time, I was driving home from a postpartum shift listening to CBC (which was a beautiful ritual for me to and from Cobourg), thinking YES! Finally! This amazing woman, such an inspiration and badass, is on the same page as me!. I’ve been done feeling bad for a long time now and would much rather find the good which I think I bring into my doula work probably without even being super conscious of it.

What tools does Steph use most as a doula?

Listening I would say is the tool I use the most out of everything I have in my tool bag. I think sitting down with a good cup of coffee or tea and just listening to people tell their story is so undervalued in our society but is such a powerful tool.

There is healing that can happen just by speaking our experiences outloud. There is power in sharing your story to another woman and perhaps, having other women overhear that story and feel less alone in their journey. I’m a HUGE advocate for sharing and it’s why I do the work that I do and it’s why I put so much of my own self out there.

This life stuff, pregnancy, birth, raising kids or marriage, is too much for us to carry alone. So, sometimes, as doulas, we just listen.

What have Steph's clients said about working with her?

Steph was amazing. In the heat of the moment, I needed someone to help me make decisions instead of telling me what to do. In these moments, it became so clear to me why you would need a doula which is something I always wondered about because I knew I would have my midwife and my husband, so that was eye opening! Also, Steph has super soft hands and they were SO comforting!”
— Sarah, 2017

What's in Steph's doula bag?

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There’s not much I carry in my doula bag for births. Why? Because YOU can do it! I honestly just grab my purse and throw a few snacks and bottle of water inside. Depending on the time of day I’ll grab us all some coffee on my way to to your birth. I usually throw in my rainbow woven wrap in case we need it but all the things we need for birth are within you and/or already in your space. There’s so much we can get creative with and I’d rather not be bogged down with things and gadgets.

For postpartum clients I will tailor it to our visits. Are we working on breastfeeding? Are we hanging out with older siblings? I have been known to bring a box of craft supplies, fresh eggs from the chickens, and definitely a few carriers to learn babywearing with *wink*

Who inspires you, Steph?

Strong women everywhere inspire me! Especially every single one who is not afraid to push the envelope or stand up for what she believes is right!

I feel like I draw inspiration from good people. People who are just kind and hospitable and do good things in the world. Like, good friends or strangers who will go out of their way to help you out or if they also are busy with young kids, check in with you in any way they can. We have amazing friends who will do anything for us and have supported us from basically Day 1 of our friendship. We look up to them and aspire to support others and treat others they way they do!

What is your favourite part about being a doula?

Selfishly, getting to know my clients and being part of such an intimate time in their lives is one of my favourite parts of being a doula. I also love learning and bearing witness to the power of women! There is something so transformative that happens when we share space around a birth woman and bear witness to her bringing another life into our world - crazy!

Mostly, I just want to help. I want to help and share my journey and the journey of other women before us so that we can raise each other up. This is what drives my birth photography as well. If you haven't visited Birth Story yet, please do! So if I have helped in anyway, big or small, I am super happy!